Mommy’s Plate

Hey…

You’ve had a very difficult few weeks and I am so proud of you.

You were strong when you tried to conceive and over and over again realized that you were not yet pregnant.

You were strong when you endured the battery of tests to determine why you were having such difficulty conceiving.

You were strong when you learned that your womb was a shape and thickness that would be very difficult to carry a pregnancy if conception occurred.

You were strong through all of the medicines, tests, and side effects to help you conceive and carry a baby.

You were strong when those medicines fooled your body into thinking you were pregnant…and you weren’t.

You were strong and level-headed when you decided that you would become a mother by adopting. After all, what is important to you is being a loving mother to a child.

You were relieved to stop going the extra mile to conceive.

You were ecstatic to share with me that a young woman had chosen you and your husband to be the parents of a baby yet to be born.

You were equally ecstatic and shocked to find out that you were pregnant during the same week you were asked to be the mother of the unborn child.

You loved both unborn babies with all your heart.

We were excited to hear that the birth mother was progressing towards labor.

We were excited to call you a new mommy and see pictures of the newborn baby.

And we are saddended to hear that she has changed her mind.

Yet, you are still strong and always considered the feelings of the newborn baby’s family…as much as I know this hurts you.

I am still proud to call you a new mommy.

You know that I am agnostic and I know that you believe in God. Maybe our higher powers are one in the same, maybe it was your God, maybe your mom had a hand in this…

I truly believe that week when we found out about the babies, an entity more powerful than you or I realized that we cannot control the emotions of others and that it might adversely affect our desires and what is meant to be. YOU are meant to be a mother and so it shall be.

We will all grieve for the newborn baby and wish him love and for his life to be well with his family.

We will all love you and support you and your family.

I can’t wait to share more MommyTales with you…

Love and strength,
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